This is actually a dream come true!
Last July, I opened a new domain on wordpress to give space to my much awaiting comics, which is The Zero Calorie Adventures of Milk and Coffee. It’s a bunch of Filipino (Tagalog) comic strips that focuses on the friendship of the characters Milk and Coffee and friends.
The story line came out of no where, when I kept on wearing my weird shades and I started drawing my mini me. That’s explain why ‘Coffee’ had this bug-eye/heart-shaped shades. While the other characters are based on people I encounter and some friends.
The comics is in Tagalog, so sorry for the English-speaking fellas who are following me. It’s actually a risk because I don’t have an idea how it will go since I’m never familiar with the local SEO and how the new site’s Google ranking will climb up. Plus the fact that it’ll be composed of mostly images, I think it will be a great challenge for me.
But anyway, to my Filipino friends here, please support The Zero Calorie Adventures of Milk and Coffee. I’d appreciate it if you will follow and like our posts both on blogs and Facebook.
Just kindly go to these link and hit like:
Thank you so much!
This blog will never close, by the way. I have plenty of poems to share to you, so please, please stay tuned!
I’m not in an expert shoe to give advices about relationship flaws, but I think my past and present relationship experiences – plus over-watching of Personalan and Face-to-Face episodes – make me eligible to discuss this topic.
For those aiming a long-term (or forevermore) relationship, relationship flaws may seem to be a forging experience for a couple. However, for those who are considering an ending to their current relationship, I believe these things are enumerated in a piece of paper of why they have to leave their partners. As general, people look at these instances as tough times. It causes tears, times and, sometimes, even lives. For my opinion, relationship flaws are something to look forward to when you’re getting into a relationship. It’s like the inevitable things that you need to expect all days of your life. It’s not because you have to think negatively, but it some sort of anticipation of what to happen or how you could prepare myself. Hence, expect the unexpected.
To be honest, I’m one of those who look forward to “forevermore”. (Who never does anyway?) Although I could say that I’m very happy with my relationship these days, but there’s a part of me that I have to prepare with this flaws in order for me to stay aiming to my long-term plan.
What to expect? For me these two are the common things:
In my own relationship dictionary, jealousy has two definitions: (1) it defines how much you don’t want to lose a person, and (2) it could also be defined as how much you trust your partner. People always get wrong understanding when it comes to this situation. They thought people could get rid of it easily but aren’t really. That’s why I always remember and I advise my friends that never listen to people who said that they’ve overcome this feeling. They are lying and they could only add burden in your situation. No one actually can get rid of this. The right people to talk to when it comes to asking for advise are the ones who say “I’ve learned to manage it”. How to manage it, though?
One of the things that triggers jealousy is the lost of importance. When it fades, there goes the comparison. When there’s comparison, there’s quarrel.
If you don’t want to hear your partner comparing because of jealousy, don’t make a reason to get your partner think of something suspicious. I would suggest that you always evaluate your actions, and try asking yourself “Am I doing all things fairly?” or “Am I still the same as before?” or as simply as “What have I done?”
For instance, if your intention is to be sweet to the people around you, be sweeter to the person whom you want to be with for the rest of your life. Don’t take you relationship for granted. It’s not always that you’re always together or talk to each other you have to forget the rest of story. Always make it to the point or try to get use to an attitude where you provide the needs of partner. Make sure you that whatever good thing you do to other people, you make it more special to your partner. Besides, that’s what relationship is all about: making your “only one” feels special.
Communication is really important to a relationship. We all know that. What I meant about dead communication is that when partners cut off their communication strings when they are already living together or (for long and not-too-long distance relationship) simply they are virtually offline.
In a relationship, always take the chances of communicating with your partner. It’s a common mistake that partners think they don’t have to talk about their lives anymore when they are together because it would trigger the “Getting Sick of it” factor, that’s not a valid reason.
Every time you feel something wrong, ask yourself again. What will you lose if you just send your partner a message and say “Hey, it’s my lunch break. If you’re hungry you go eat as well. <3” or “I just arrived at office” or “Hi! I’m just cleaning the house!” Truthfully, saying these build foundation in your communication, not only that, it builds trust as well. Actually, even the simplest messages like “Good morning, (name)” and “See you later, Honey” melts a lot of communication gap and even a building anger. For long distance relationship, try sending messages even you’re partner is offline. It makes people smile when they find your name blinking in their messenger or e-mail.
If you think your partner would not appreciate every message, text and calls you make, I would suggest that you think again. Sometimes, it’s not because your ‘only one’ ignores your messages, you don’t make him/her feel special. In fact, every time you call or text or message your partner, at the back of their mind, you make them feel comfortable and special, and later on you make him/her realize that your sweetness has never changed – and that’s part of building trust as well.
Also, never forget to talk about things in nice way, especially if you’re dealing with a problem. Tough situation are not to be settled with tough conversation. Learn how to calm yourself even if the other line is burning with words. The more you’re relaxed the more you understood the situation and come up with better solution.
Above all, get rid of negative things and always look at the brighter side of your situations.
(Photo from: http://www.mentalhelp.net/images/root/vincedivorce.jpg)
I don’t know how it became a gay machine, but the “Tunay Na Lalake” (Real Men) blog says it is “not for real men.”
Watch watch watch…
My officemate and I saw one of these at Glorieta/Landmark in Makati. I should have tested it to see if the product claims are real.
But anyway, speaking of exercise, I have already decided to go back to my daily healthy routine again by lifting some weights at home. My target is to gain the weight I’ve lost during my depression days. Right now, I think I’m already putting on some weight as my monstrous appetite has come back in game already.
I just pray this is it…
It’s still too early in the morning when I write this post.
I could not sleep because my body clock is designed to wake myself up and sustain every night. Although, I’ve been in the morning shift for more than 2 months now, I’m still unable to change my natural wake-up-alarm for unknown reason.
Well, everyone say, “You’re lucky because you get to sleep at night.”
I say, “Who said I’m getting 7-8 hours of sleep at night?” In fact, I can complete my sleep in the morning, when everyone else in the Philippines is working. Yeah, I’m like a vampire who’s afraid of the sunlight.
To convince you that it’s not healthy for me, physically and emotionally, to be in the usual hours of work, let’s calculate everything…
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Yipee! What a successful second day!
I didn’t know that I would survive another day without touching my phone. Of course, I have no choice because I left it at home. I didn’t mind whether the texts that are coming were important or not. It’s just I don’t want to see my phone until this self challenge is over.
My boyfriend wonders. His Mom wonders. Everybody around me wonders. Actually, even myself wonders – why am I doing this really? The only thing that comes into my mind right now is that I’m happy that I’m doing a great job on this do-it-myself anti-depression stuff – and it’s almost done!
When I started doing this, good result comes along the way. I manage to eat right, read the book that was lend to me by Annie Dio – yeah, the Eat. Pray. Love book – and I also had time to pray to God about this feelings that bothers me a lot.
It also pushed me to have bonding time with the sun. I just felt right warm during that morning when I was on my way to the office. And I needed that to energize my soul.
However, when I was on the way home, heavy traffic almost ruined my day. I spent 3 hours of my time just sitting inside the jeepney, doing nothing but to check my face on the jeep’s side mirror. Good thing, my thoughts didn’t run somewhere else. I just murmur a prayer so that I can divert my attention and also to ask God to make the traffic do no harm to me.
Anyways, the next day is just a sleep ahead. I hope everything would go fine for me…and for every one I love.
I believe it would.
It’s not that I lost my phone or something, but I really have to do this for some self-control reasons.
Recently, I have this feeling of being depressed, and I want to talk to somebody else just to vent everything out. But unfortunately, there’s no one available except for my boyfriend’s mother, Mama Daisy. She is a good listener. In fact, I shared most of my problems to her including my problem about this son :-P. I heard her words of encouragement which make me somewhat feel good, however, I believe there’s still something wrong and I bothers me 24/5. And I think I’m getting obsessed with her son.
In the articles I just read in the internet about depression and obsession, it says that I should feel lucky because I have discovered this problem before it get worse. And, yeah, I’m glad that I discovered it in its early stage.
So what’s the connection of the “No cell phone” stuff with my dilemma?
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